The 27th March 2021 was the day our family thought we would celebrate Calvin’s 21st birthday. The day is here but not Calvin. The finality of death is heart-breaking to accept, especially the death of someone as young as Calvin. To get peace and acceptance we need to stay close to the God of all comfort through prayer and reading his word. This is our prayer for Brian, Ruth and Eva, that God will grant them peace and acceptance in their tragic loss. As we all feel sorrow at our family’s great loss, we ask God to give us strength to thank him for 20 years of Calvin’s life.
As his grandparents we were so proud of our dear grandson, but in death we are even more proud of the young man he had become. We have been touched and saddened by the tributes written about him, by his childhood, school, rugby and university friends, his family and a young man who had worked with him last year. The stories were all personal memories they all had of Calvin, individual memories that all said the same things in a different way. He was caring and helpful to others always trying to make them feel they were important and not feel left out. One of his friends said, “Calvin liked everyone and was always quick to defend them when someone was berating them.” His kindness to others was a theme in all the tributes. Even in the midst of our sorrow and pain we are amazed to hear how our grandson was thought of so highly by his peers. It is wonderful that in such a short life he has left beautiful memories of love, kindness, concern and empathy for others.
God endowed Calvin with a good brain, and he was talented trumpet and rugby player, but he was not conceited. He showed humility and was always able to laugh at himself.
Compassion, kindness, humility and empathy for others are all recorded for us in the Bible as essential attributes for all Christians. Jesus showed them in his life on earth and we as his followers must show them in our lives. We thank God that Calvin showed these attributes in his short life and we thank all who have contributed to this site. Without your tributes we, his grandparents, would never have known how much our grandson was loved and held in such high esteem and how he helped and encouraged others. We have often heard that ability blossoms under encouragement and Calvin always loved helping and encouraging others. We thank God for his kind, considerate and encouraging manner.
These are the beautiful memories we now hold dear and give our heartfelt thanks to those who shared your memories of Calvin. Yes, we grieve but also have joy in knowing our grandson loved and was loved by so many and will spend eternity in heaven with his saviour Jesus Christ.
Trevor and Carol
April 4th, 2021
The run up towards Calvin's birthday was a difficult time for myself. I was unsure how it would all feel and, in these unusual times, what could I do to remember him. The Scotland v France game was on the night before and it felt like the definition of a bittersweet moment. Calvin would've loved it! Probably would've been on his feet for the entire time the clock was in the red and shouting abuse at the French player who didn't kick it out after a Scottish turnover. I thought a lot about Brian and how many of these memories the two of them must've shared.
The next morning was difficult, difficult to smile and remember the good times. I wanted to take part of the day just for him. I was receiving my second vaccine that day so I knew I would have around 1.5 hours to myself for Calvin. In the car I wanted to listen to something that reminded me of him and the first person that came to mind was Bruce Springstreen. It was lovely. I sang aloud the songs I knew and reflected on the past year. Reflecting on how devastating and unfair it has been for so many. But following my vaccine, there came a sense of hope for the future and thankfulness for what Calvin passed on to me.
He is deeply, deeply missed and I love him.
March 30th, 2021
We celebrated your birthday over a special evening meal where I shared some memories of you with my dear friends. A cheers to you Calvin! We miss you dearly. xx
March 29th, 2021