Carol April 4th, 2021

The 27th March 2021 was the day our family thought we would celebrate Calvin’s 21st birthday. The day is here but not Calvin. The finality of death is heart-breaking to accept, especially the death of someone as young as Calvin. To get peace and acceptance we need to stay close to the God of all comfort through prayer and reading his word. This is our prayer for Brian, Ruth and Eva, that God will grant them peace and acceptance in their tragic loss. As we all feel sorrow at our family’s great loss, we ask God to give us strength to thank him for 20 years of Calvin’s life. As his grandparents we were so proud of our dear grandson, but in death we are even more proud of the young man he had become. We have been touched and saddened by the tributes written about him, by his childhood, school, rugby and university friends, his family and a young man who had worked with him last year. The stories were all personal memories they all had of Calvin, individual memories that all said the same things in a different way. He was caring and helpful to others always trying to make them feel they were important and not feel left out. One of his friends said, “Calvin liked everyone and was always quick to defend them when someone was berating them.” His kindness to others was a theme in all the tributes. Even in the midst of our sorrow and pain we are amazed to hear how our grandson was thought of so highly by his peers. It is wonderful that in such a short life he has left beautiful memories of love, kindness, concern and empathy for others. God endowed Calvin with a good brain, and he was talented trumpet and rugby player, but he was not conceited. He showed humility and was always able to laugh at himself. Compassion, kindness, humility and empathy for others are all recorded for us in the Bible as essential attributes for all Christians. Jesus showed them in his life on earth and we as his followers must show them in our lives. We thank God that Calvin showed these attributes in his short life and we thank all who have contributed to this site. Without your tributes we, his grandparents, would never have known how much our grandson was loved and held in such high esteem and how he helped and encouraged others. We have often heard that ability blossoms under encouragement and Calvin always loved helping and encouraging others. We thank God for his kind, considerate and encouraging manner. These are the beautiful memories we now hold dear and give our heartfelt thanks to those who shared your memories of Calvin. Yes, we grieve but also have joy in knowing our grandson loved and was loved by so many and will spend eternity in heaven with his saviour Jesus Christ. Trevor and Carol